Where’s the rule book?

DSC_1557.JPGWhat is love? The dictionary defines it as “an intense feeling of deep affection.” The Bibles states that “Love is patient, love is kind….it always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always preserves.” Everyone has their own definition of love. Mine’s still currently being written. However, the world is full of people searching to find it. Searching for that love that knocks you off your feet. Searching for their love story.

For some reason, the search for love (aka dating) seems to have these “rules,” and everyone and anyone has their opinion. I’m frankly tired of it.

I’m tired of hearing people tell other’s that their crazy for having dated their high school boyfriend throughout college, because they are “missing out.” I’m tired of hearing people chime in on how “so and so” didn’t give a relationship enough time, or that they jumped into things too quickly. I’m tired of seeing relationships being judged because of a difference in skin color or age. I’m tired of listening to “they got married to young, it’s never going to work out,” or “she’s 35, she needs to settle down.” I’m tired of men and women being judging because marriage wasn’t a path they decided to take.

God didn’t provide a rule book on dating.

Yes the bible speaks of abstinence, adultery, and love. However, there is no “10 Commandments for dating.”  

There are no rules, there are no guidelines. All you can do is put yourself out there, follow your heart and see what happens.

So let’s stop with this. Let’s stop the judging. (I’ll be the first to admit I’ve done this too) Let’s stop following the “status quo,” and lets start following our heart and not caring what other’s think. It irritates me to see my friends having to stress over what others are saying and thinking about their relationships. A relationship is between two people….t-w-o people. Only those two people know what’s right and wrong for them. Only they know what’s best.

Life is hard. Dating is hard. Love is hard. If someone finds another individual who makes the ups and down’s of life more enjoying, who makes them excited to get out bed each morning, then who are we to judge?  Who are we to stand in their way?

 

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